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As parents, do we sometimes have too great expectations for our children?
I had my first baby today, a healthy boy (Cristen Alexander) weighing five pounds two ounces and twenty-one inches long. When we were finally alone in the hospital after the bustle of nurses and doctors, i just looked down at him and realized that he was the most perfect thing in my life. I never wanted to hurt him in any way, and i always wanted him to trust me with whatever he was facing.
Growing up, my parents had great expectations of me. They wanted me to become a doctor or the president and they instilled that into every day of my life. My childhood was miserable, and as a parent before i’m even a member of society, i feel like i let them down. I never want my son to feel that way. I want him to know that no matter what he does with his life, whether he’s a president or a garbage collector, i’ll be proud of him.
As parents, do we have greater expectations of our children than they want for themselves? I never wanted to be a doctor or president. I wanted to be a writer, and my parents never got that. Sometimes, do we push our children too hard and make them resent us? Though we may be doing it for them, do we stop to think that maybe they don’t want to be a doctor or whatever dream you have perceived for them?
I just wonder because, looking at my son today, i realized that he could never be more perfect than he is right now. He can never do anything to make me wish he was a better person. No matter what he does with his life, i will be proud of him and i will completely support him in all that he does. Even if he wants to be a garbage collector.
I never want to be a parent like my own. I will never EXPECT anything from my son, and i will proudly tell people whatever occupation he gets. I will help him along his journey in life, but i will never push too hard. I’ll support whatever decision he makes, even if i don’t agree with them. Because, in all reality, it is his life. I have given it to him to let him make his own mistakes and his own choices. I can’t live my life through him.
What are your thoughts?
just about everyone wants their child to be the best and brightest. They want them to be doctors, lawyers, etc.. They want more for them then what they had.
I just want my daughter to be happy and I do not plan to push her to be better then everyone else.
Just today someone was telling me about a child they know and how after a basketball game she was crying because her father told her if she didn’t make at least 4 baskets during the game she wasn’t aloud to go to a party. She only got 3 baskets and was so very upset. Why would anyone want that for there child, it is too much stress on young children how should be enjoying every minute of childhood.
My childhood was stolen from me and I do not want that for my daughter. So what if you had you son before a career? It isn’t the end! You have a beautiful baby boy, enjoy every second of it because before you know it he will be in school, then on his own and you will look back and be proud you where the best mother to him you could be.
Greeneyed | Nov 21, 2009
"No matter what he does with his life, i will be proud of him and i will completely support him in all that he does. Even if he wants to be a garbage collector."
Tell him that. Everyday, if you feel you need to. A lot of kids feel like they’ll let down their parents if they don’t cure cancer or set a world record.
However, you should expect somethings from your son – not in the sense of "you WILL be a doctor, and you will be brilliant!" but in the sense of "you will be an honest, compassionate, brave boy." Remember that while it’s his life, you’re responsible for his upbringing, which can make or break a person. Give him the tools he needs to succeed in his endeavors and be a good man. And congratulations!
EDIT: Erin H, it’s hysterical that they edited out c*m in c*m laude.
luckytacs | Nov 21, 2009
Well said. It’s great that you realized where your parents screwed up, and now he won’t have to grow up facing your inner demons. I was never what my parents wanted, either, and they made no effort to hide that. It almost drove me to suicide, but after I realized that they’d never be happy, and I’d never change, but their dreams weren’t worth my life, I got over them so fast.
I think you’ll be an amazing mom.
St.JimmyHavok | Nov 21, 2009
as a parent i had a list of objectives i wanted to teach my kids..how to take care of a car, how to dance, not to be afraid to learn and to think for themself in everything.. i always kept my ear to the ground and if they mentioned anything they wanted to try, i would back them and encourage them to do it… even if i didnt like it.. one son wanted to be a fire jumper.. so we researched what it would take and the physical training.. and i told him he needed to start getting ready.. he found he didnt like the rigors of it and dropped it. i pushed them to not only follow a job they wanted to learn, but to also learn a job they could do sitting just in case something happened.. i wanted them to go to the community college but i at least got them into a vocational school. i warned them of what they would encounter in whatever they chose and heard stories later how they didnt believe me but it all came to pass
(i have lived alot) just dont try to live vicariously through them.. that will make them miserableTier | Nov 21, 2009
Sometimes. A good friend of ours once told us he’d be happy with his son as long as he played a sport, oe musical instrument and excelled in academics in school. By that standard, I’d have been a complente failure! I also get freaked out by those people who push their kids into modeling and pageants. My parents never pushed me and I was a bit lazy in grade school but decided on law as a second career at 28 and graduated cum laude. So I would like to raise my son the way I was raised, of course I wouldn’t encourage him to be lazy, just to follow his heart and be the best that he can be.
As for the garbage-my little boy is almost 2 and he thinks the garbage truck is awesome. My husband and I are both lawyers but we figure hey, a lot of lawyers are miserable, picking up trash is an honest days work and cannot be outsourced to India. I want my son to be self sufficient, and happy. I’d rather have a happy child than one who was successful by superficial standards.
Congrats oon Cristen. Meeting your little one is the most overwhelming joy!
Erin H | Nov 21, 2009
parents just want their children to have better than what they did. People want their children to go to college, and succeed in a good career. That way, they don’t have to be a garbage collector. By never setting any standard, the child may never fathom doing the greatness the could. (being a doctor, writer, teacher, scientist, lawyer)Sometimes, they end up pushing the child, and it’s all ‘work hard,’ but never any play. You shouldn’t not expect anything from your son. You should expect him to do the best he can everyday, giving 110% and making good choices.
Mandy J | Nov 21, 2009
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